Changes: The decision is all yours...

Every time I sit down with a cup of coffee and a book on a windy and cloudy day, my thoughts usually go wild. I always wonder that does a person change with time or time changes people? Or maybe situations change people? Here, I am not talking about physical features. I am referring to the mentality. 

I have met a lot of people in the past and if I meet those people now, they won't be the same people whom you met days, months, or years ago. There will be changes in them. Some will change in mentality, some in personality. Some of them will change for their good, some for the bad. 

There could be many examples of how or why a person can change. 

For me, there is one change that I will always hate: A person who changes just to get along with someone. 

That person might be okay with his/her decision but according to me, I don't think, that is a good reason for 'changes'. I, personally, believe that to change for someone else is, in sense to betray yourself. But there could be exceptions in other kinds of relationships. 

I am not saying that changing yourself is bad. It's neither good too, but it is always there. 

I know that not everyone will understand your passion, sensitivity, or dislikes. But, the truth is your fake personality will only bring you temporary friends and happiness. And, not to forget, also a bunch of people who don't really like you for who you truly are. 

I also believe that there will be people who would love and accept the way you are. If you haven't met yet, you will.

I am not telling you shouldn't change yourself. I am just telling you why you shouldn't do it. I can give you many reasons not to change yourself for someone but, after all, the decision is yours and I respect it.

If you want to change, change because you want to, because you feel like you need to, because it's going to make your life better but don't change for people. 

Here's a piece of personal advice from me: Don't ever let people sway you into believing that there's something wrong with you' just because you feel things differently. If you find yourself different from the crowd, don't be ashamed. Be happy and proud that you don't follow the crowd like the others.

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